The past few months I have been learning about this topic. I know we become afaid of talking about it especially in marriage. This has continued to be a difficult topic. Sexual intimacy in marriage is beautiful and something I have learned to appreciate and understand why it is sacred. I hope to do this topic justice as this world demeans and diminishes this beautiful gift.
Why is sex beautiful and sacred? There are several reasons. One is the ability to bring two human beings closer together than any other way. I am getting married to my wonderful Sam. We make decisions together, we work together, we dream together. We are waiting until we are married to be completely one but this act just shows the love and togetherness we will build. It shows our devotion and desire to create a marriage that is one. Sex isn't just for having children. The notion of being one reminds me of how love should really be. Sex only enhances that marriage relationship.
The biological aspects of sex gears couples for growth. It allows a couple to grow as people. Men and women are different and that is for good reason. If they were the same, sex would be an activity for just pleasure. We know the greatest satisfactions in life require work and so does sex. Women are not as frequently in the mood as men while men are very frequently in the mood. Some would say this doesn't work. It doesn't work if people are selfish in sex. The greatest sex occurs when you strive to please and make your partner happy. It is selfless and shows how sex is a growing experience. You are there to be patient, kind, gentle, and ever selfless in those moments.
This is probably why sex has shown to better in couples who have been together longer. They have learned to serve and attend to them first. Men that have been married for several years prove that it can be done. They chose their partner everyday despite the lack of oxytocin that women have that bonds them to their spouse. Women have to chose just the same but it is easier for them.
Chose your love and love your choice.
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